A good man By Mark Cee

A good man
Have you ever wondered what it takes to be a good man? A good boyfriend or be the best man you can be? Strolling down Australia premier street, Collins Street, admiring the architecture and the lifestyle it harbors from fashion, financial and social activities. I could not help but wonder, if working, shopping or engaging in the social lifestyle of this grand street makes me a good man? Can l safely say being bound by the class and exclusivity, one can be admirable? As my neurons got excited, here are few things that l handpicked from civilization.

Being a good man is not rocket science, it is within the reach of any guy, you can be the type of man you want to be, treasured in society, your relationships and social circles. This will make you the super person you are, to your girlfriend, wife, partner etc.  You have to focus and be consistent with your efforts plus considerable behavior. Respect plays a bigger role, that of yourself and for your lover creating equality. In all honesty, a good relationship does not descent from the sky, you work at it but boy the results are worth it, she will give you all she can under the sun l tell you.
Play your part and play it well. Be a man, not just a man but a gentleman. Live with Chivalry, it is not dead, if it is resurrect it in your relationship. This goes beyond opening doors for her and giving her your coat when it’s cold. You need to have strong moral values, courteous, generous and honorable equaling a modern day prince charming. It saddens me at times when l see a guy with a girl shivering after a night out but she has a man next to her wearing a coat, what’s wrong with men of this day and age?
Respect women not just your woman. Respect your woman’s limitations and personal space. She is not your property neither is she your slave, you are her lover, and there is no need for her to report to you all the time. Stop referring to women with the B word, there is nothing levelheaded about that. I know the American Hip Hop culture made it seem cool but it is not and make a sentient effort to avoid using that word. Do not refer to woman as fat, ugly, or any other rude words, insulting remarks are a good way to lose ladies including yours.

Clean up, be smart, and do not wear the same clothes repeatedly in a week. You do not necessarily have to wear expensive clothes or a huge wardrobe you just have to have clean clothes. Clean your room and make your bed for goodness sake. If you smoke visit the dentist regularly to get your teeth and tongue cleaned. Stinking clothes and breath are disgusting; nobody has to put up with that.
Be Honest and trustworthy, as trust is not given but earned you have to be honest to earn it.  In any relationship, honesty is almost always the best policy. Don’t sugarcoat the truth. Tell her your likes and dislikes eluding problems and altercations. I know life can happen but basing your interactions on truth and openness will allow your relationship to grow and be secure. This breeds reciprocation on her part.  Trust her and give her intention to trust you. Trust should form the groundwork of your bond; after all, love is a blend of trust and commitment.

Be supportive. You can demonstrate support by being available; listening courteously and showing your interest in the things she has to discuss or tell you. Spend time with her, Cherish good memories with her. Take her places, dinner, movies, watch the Australian open or grand prix even go on drives with her. Go an extra mile cook for her if you can, no 2 min noodles please. By being supportive, you’ll help to reinforce the sense of security and mutuality in the relationship.

In case of a fight be the bigger man, do not just walk away, excuse yourself, and do not say things you may regret later. It sounds hard to do but it can be done, Tell her you are angry and you will be back, you want to clear your head. Apologize, it does not matter who was wrong, it is not a trial no one will jail you for that. After the fight find the real source of the problem and fix it, together.
Compliment your lady sincerely. Your lady appreciates your admiring comment, but you must mean it. Make sure your compliment accents on something you sincerely like or admire about her. Your woman goes to lengths to make herself look respectable for you. The hairdos and make up, visits to the beauty parlor are not for them, it is all for you silly. Appreciate the woman’s worth and work.  Go beyond the norm say something honeyed followed by a grand gesture, like “that hairdo brings out your celestial beauty”, then gently kiss her, by being unambiguous it makes you compliment exceptional and appreciative.

As my grandfather always said “love has no formula, but if you add moral and subtract immoral things it equals a fruitful relationship” .Remember this does not happen overnight, you got to invest in it. I will leave you with the prudent lyrics of Mr Tarrus Riley, Love your women for she is a queen. I hope that was a good read feel free to comment and give us suggestions that will be very helpful. Thank you.
Written and edited by Mark Cee for markentertainment.com.au